Integrity Costs
I've moved. In my old flat we decided that if and when you move out, you are responsible for finding someone to fill your room. It sort of protects the others from people if they decide to bail. I have been advertising for a number of weeks, I am also responsible for paying rent for the room until someone moves in.
Early last week I called to see how things were going and was told that they had someone appropriate, but they were going to wait until the end of the week to see if there were any more offers. Because of this I put another add in the Press on Wednesday and thought nothing more of it.
I called on Friday for an update, left a message but no reply. I called again on Saturday only to find that because they had taken so long to get back to the interested party, he had gone somewhere else. Suffice to say I was a little annoyed. Not only was I not informed about this earlier so I could put another add in Saturday's Press, but there seemed quite a bit of apathy about the whole situation.
I find the house has not been properly cleaned since I left, the gardens have not been tended to for over a month and one of the flatmates has a friend staying in my old vacant room. The place is a mess, and as such no-one with any sense would be interested in moving in. (except the squatter in my old room)
I have left some furnature, a fridge and other bits and pieces there to help until they can sort some for themselves, but there is little concern for replacing them.
Now I'm wondering how much more responsibility do I need to take. If they're not interested in helping in the process I'm starting to feel that I am fully within my rights to wash my hands of the situation.
Integrity Costs sometimes, but for how long?
posted by Jason @ 8:35 am
5 Comments:
I think you've been patient enough with these people, and it's time to wash your hands of the situation.
You can't keep propping them up and working for them when that work goes unappreciated.
At the end of the day, is is they who are not holding up their end of the deal and that makes it virtually impossible for you to hold up yours. You should rid yourself of them and this situation immediately because you'e done all you can do.
You can lead the horse to water, but you cannot make it drink.
Jas...
Sure sounds like they need a deadline: i am coming for my fridge on... so get yourself sorted. And you can't keep paying rent if they don't get their act together and get someone in. In fact if there's someone in your room, i reckon you're completely within your rights to bail. Don't cha love it!
Best to check whether you are legally required to find a replacement, ie did you sign the tenancy agreement?
Jas,
One thing I've come to realise is that people very rarely have personal standards as high as your (our) own, and when integrity comes into it, it is often both disappointing and frustrating. Take credit in the knowledge that you have done the right thing by wanting to see them right. To be generous is one thing, but to have this generosity taken advantage of is another. As Lynne said, give them a deadline and put some expectation on them that they WILL sort it out for themselves. The joys eh!
I agree with the deadline too Jas. Maybe u need to pay them a visit and sort it out properly. Do u think they are avoiding u for some reason?
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